Of the non-profits I support, endorse and widely talk about to people, one of my favorites is the Caring House Project.
Real estate maverick entrepreneur Frank McKinney builds multi-million dollar mansions for the rich and famous – and uses some of the profits (plus donations) to build sub-$1,000 homes for the desperately poor and homeless in Haiti.
It has been my privilege to help fund a few homes through this project.
When Frank invited me to join one of his famous Haiti tours, I couldn’t fit it into my schedule, and asked a friend, Jeanette Fisher, to go instead. She went, and was so deeply moved by the experience that she became a donor herself, and also got a few more of her friends to donate to help build a house in Haiti.
Last month, in February 2009, Frank McKinney combined a triple book launch (he wrote a real estate guide, a self improvement book and a story book for children) with the inauguration of his $29 million green home, Aqua Liana, in a grand party in New York.
Once again, I couldn’t use my invitation but asked two friends, Carrie Wilkerson and Paul Evans if they would like to attend. They did – and became donors too.
But due to scheduling conflicts, they couldn’t make it to the launch party either, and so sent two other friends in their place.
By now, you’ve no doubt guessed what happens in such cases. Yes, these 2 friends became big donors for the Caring House Project.
Call it the ‘Ripple That Builds Homes’.
Why am I telling you about this?
Because you – yes, YOU – have the power to set off a ripple just like this. About anything YOU are passionate about, care deeply about, feel strongly about.
This weekend, take a few minutes or hours to think about the change you would like to see in the world, that would make it a nicer, better, happier place.
Think over the people or organizations or groups that are helping make that change happen.
Consider ways you can help that effort, and the people whom you think could make your ‘ripple’ grow and spread wider, faster, bigger.
Then – and here’s the hardest bit – FOLLOW your heart.
Know it will make a difference.
Take ACTION in casting that pebble that will set off a ripple.
Go on and do it. You could end up changing the world – TODAY!
Yesterday, I was directed to this video by Nick Vujicic. One line from this incredibly inspiring man was:
“I want to live a life with NO LIMITS”
(these words take on a special new meaning when spoken by a man who has no arms – and no legs!)
One person I immediately thought of when I heard it was Gail Goodwin. Her thinking is big – seemingly limitless.
In 2006, together with her daughter, Gail created the ‘World’s Longest Letter’ of love and support to U.S.troops, the “Baby Come Back Home Soldier Scrolls”. The scrolls were more than 18 miles in length when they were signed by Congress at the US Capitol building in Washington, DC.
Her latest dream is to embrace the world – literally!
The Global Hug Tour takes off on a plane ride around the world, touching 50 countries and sharing 2,000 hugs in each. Just 2 people in a small plane, setting out to make a difference, to change the world!
Why do it? Gail was touched by the story of a Marine named Jesse who requested a hug, and shared with her that inspiration is what gets him through the time in Iraq.
Gail returned to the U.S. and created InspireMeToday.com. All 2.5 million army personnel have unlimited free access to ALL powerful, energizing and inspiring interviews with her ‘luminaries’.
In her own words: “In a time where fear, doom and gloom seem to be the topic of the day, we choose to change the focus to something positive. Through opening our hearts and celebrating our global connectivity, bridges can be built between us.”
Possibility that’s given a practical twist, where it takes on the mantle of probability – by the determined, focused and inspired actions of this dynamic duo… Gail Goodwin and her husband, Darryl, a veteran pilot.
Together, starting in May 2009, they will fly 30,000 miles around the world, stopping at 50 cities in 45 different countries – and share 100,000 hugs!
As they do it, they will also raise awareness about many critically important global problems like poverty, education, health care, children’s and women’s needs, wildlife preservation and entrepreneurship – and try to offer meaningful solutions.
No, they don’t think the Global Hug Tour will solve the Earth’s woes.
Yes, they believe we can make a difference together.
In an eye-opening interview she did recently with Beth Kanter, Gail said:
“Imagine a world where we all played big, where we all contribute to the world in a bigger and more tangible way. If everyone focused on what’s right instead of what’s wrong… We want to inspire people to step forward in faith instead of fear and follow their own dream, knowing that with belief, anything is possible!”
I’m inviting you to be a part of that world.
Where YOU can play big. Where YOU can touch a life, make it better. Where YOU can live your deeper purpose.
Every day. One small step at a time.
If two regular people can follow their dream, then what’s stopping you from following yours?
You can become a Hug Ambassador.
Or you can simply hug someone today – and join the “Hug Me” game on Twitter (read the rules – it’s easy)
As kids, over the Christmas holidays, all of us cousins would head to grandpa’s home. With 13 grandkids, and 16 years separating the eldest from youngest, it was predictable bedlam. Good times. Year after year.
Until we grew up, one by one. Moved apart. Had our own families. And lives.
This afternoon, by a very strange and providential coincidence, 6 of us met over lunch.
One cousin had come from Australia, another from the U.A.E. My sister had traveled 300 miles to be there. And a dear childhood friend, one whom we had all lost track of for the better part of a decade, was there too – just back from a trip to Angkor Wat Cambodia.
Most of us brought our kids. It was the first time they were all meeting at the same time.
Life had happened in the intervening years. Two of the six were divorced. One was already a grandmother. For a few hours this afternoon, we were all children once more.
We excitedly relived the happy, halcyon, carefree days of our childhood and youth. Like wine, the memories had grown richer with age. Recollecting our shared escapades and antics was soul-nourishing.
My face hurt with all the laughing and smiling!
On the verge of a new year, as I look with hope and anticipation to the challenges and excitement of the next twelve months, I cannot help but realize how where I come from has influenced where I’m going.
Keeping in touch with our roots, our past, is such a critical component of our growth and development in the future… because it impacts, affects and influences a lot of what we do every day.
The trick is to nurture our past, without being trapped in it.
India today is a very different country from the one I grew up in.
Youngsters in India have always been smart – but today, they also have many more opportunities to show off their intelligence, leverage it into tangible benefits, even monetize it in a way that wasn’t easy or intuitive a few decades ago.
But one thing still remains the same. Your average young Indian lacks confidence. Self-belief. The secure inner knowledge that what they possess will translate into success.
When I was a teenager, film stars, business leaders, best-selling authors and politicians were remote, famous figures one could only admire from afar, or at best, dream of gawking at from modestly close quarters. Limited access was indeed cultivated and nurtured as a symbol of fame and greatness.
Today, I count as personal friends, or have at least had the privilege of meeting in person, celebrities like Bollywood movie superstar Amitabh Bachchan, America’s foremost business consultant Jay Abraham, bestselling writer Seth Godin, and a British Member of Parliament, among many more of the ‘Rich and Famous’ club.
And I no longer view this with the same awe and disbelief as a typical Indian youngster would. I’ve learned that they too are people, like me and you, whom you can meet and get to know – if you want to and are persistent enough.
Much of this confidence stems from traveling to many parts of the world, meeting and interacting with well-known personalities in different areas (medicine, sports, movies, politics and more), and therefore realizing how friendly and down-to-earth many of these ‘super stars’ really are – when you get to know them.
I was excited about meeting and shaking hands with Jay Abraham at Detroit, having dinner at the House of Commons in London, and speaking with Frank McKinney on the telephone for half an hour.
Over time, success breeds confidence, and it just keeps growing in an upward spiral.
All this is a prelude to what I really wanted to write about…
How much more impactful would it be if every Indian youngster had this same confidence – early on in life?
Even to this day, I feel uncomfortable (and embarrassed) when someone calls on the phone, or emails me, or even tweets a note, and displays stunned disbelief and extreme excitement at actually communicating with ME – because they didn’t expect to be “talking to a celebrity”!
While I have seen star-struck behavior in other countries too, it is usually reserved for film stars and sports heroes. I’ve never seen pioneer heart surgeons mobbed at conferences, or folks queueing up to shake hands with even very popular writers or marketers.
Why do Indian youngsters have a relatively poor self-image, despite being equal (if not, as I personally believe, better than other nationalities) in competence, skills and education?
I suspect it is competition. Overwhelming, crushing, unnerving competition – that requires an outstanding effort to stand out and shine over a crowd of hundreds of millions of peers.
Many try and give up. Early, small success may help them start off on that upward spiral that never stops growing. And helping give that tiny boost is something I’ve focused on doing lately.
I’m funding a young college student through his physical education course – after which he will find a job as instructor in a high school, setting him financially free to support his elderly mother and family.
I’m mentoring a young man who is one of the most enthusiastic people I’ve taught – and in just a few months, I notice a significant increase in his degree of confidence and a more sure and secure note to his emails.
I’m helping a talented young blogger try and reach for the stars – by seeing if we can drive enough RSS feed subscribers to her blog and get her enough votes to win the ‘Blogging Idol 2’ contest.
I’m doing this because, in my heart, I believe that this confidence boost will completely alter their perspective and create the platform for their overwhelming success in the future.
Confidence – especially confidence in one’s own self – is often hard to gain… but once gained, is much harder to shatter.
Giving our youth this essential morale builder should probably be the responsibility and duty of every successful achiever.
It will change the world they grow up in – and make it a brighter place for all of us. Go, change YOUR world. Today.
Being a doctor, especially a heart surgeon, helps. 🙂
Most (if not all) doctors, and certainly all heart surgeons, believe they are fantastic, extra-ordinary, exceptional people. The confidence (that always borders on, and often crosses the line into, arrogance) is a necessary part of being in the specialty.
Think about it for a moment. If a surgeon were to begin an operation without a certain level of confidence, s/he might simply get paralyzed by the enormity of the challenge, the potential risks of a complication, the dangers of the procedure involved.
The solution: Develop a deep inner confidence that shrugs off such doubts and allows skillful performance of a complex operation.
In my work on the Web, I play in some niche markets that are equally hyper-competitive, like the entrepreneurial home business, infopreneur and Internet marketing niches.
Players in these niches have internalized the useful life message I first heard from best-selling author Dave Pelzer – “Never let them see you bleed!”
So my peers (or ‘competitors’) pretend and preen, living the mantra of ‘fake it till you make it’, until they either reach a level when it becomes real – or they quit.
And to an extent that’s fine – but there’s a stranger thing that happens along the way…
They Stop Making Mistakes!
Or, to be more precise, they stop ADMITTING to the mistakes they make.
Because it won’t fit their image of near-perfect immaculate creations, especially to their 1000 true fans. And that’s scary, even dangerous in certain situations (like a ‘over-confident’ surgeon indulging in a procedure s/he is not competent to carry out, even if confident enough to try).
And after getting in over their heads into deep water, these masters of self-deception and posturing still gamely struggle on. Again, that’s fine – giving up on anything when the going gets tough is not a great solution, but what’s sad is they miss a valuable LEARNING experience.
By pretending to be perfect, flawless, incapable of making a mistake, they are really shooting themselves in the foot.
You see, there really is no benefit in making the claim:
“I NEVER make mistakes”
At best, it brands you a fool in the minds and eyes of people watching and listening to you. At worst, it makes you loathed and disliked by more ‘real’ people who like relating to other ‘real’ people instead of mindless caricatures and ego-images.
Everyone makes mistakes. No doubt about it. What matters is how one deals with them – how quickly, how effectively, how smartly. That defines you, your level of growth and wisdom, your maturity and suitability for huge success.
Everyone bleeds. Don’t question that, we all hurt and suffer from time to time. Do THAT in private, you don’t need to show the world how hard you worked, struggled or fought to get where you did. That’s what Dave meant by “Don’t let them see you BLEED!”
Your competition scans your business for weakness like a bloodhound scents blood. Don’t let them find your chinks and soft spots. But at the same time, don’t posture and pretend to be what you aren’t… infallible.
That’s just downright stupid.
Made a mistake? Admit it. Apologize. Or at least, take quick remedial action.
The way Steve Jobs handled his (potentially) catastrophic iPhone price cut is a case in point. After slashing the price on Apple’s blockbuster mega-hit product by $200 just months after release, he risked antagonizing a core fan base.
A mistake. Maybe a calculated one, but still a mistake.
Steve didn’t posture and spin things in a flim-flam, smoke-and-mirrors fashion. He just got right to the point and gave all buyers a $100 credit – at an Apple store.
Masterful damage control. A brilliant way to handle a mistake. And he didn’t even apologize!
On the flip side, there are obvious, glaring mistakes made by hundreds of entrepreneurs every day. Some are so apparent, even novices can see them. Yet you see people who should know better claiming they did not goof up.
“I NEVER Make Mistakes”
Wake up, folks. Even your mother won’t believe THAT one!