Are You Bold Enough To Be Happy?

Be Bold and Happy

On my long evening walk, I had a flash of startling clarity.

I realized that it took guts to be happy, contented, satisfied.

And to accept it to oneself.

Probably because it is so uncommon, a person who is happy with him/herself is an oddity.

And so, the rest of his or her circle of friends, acquaintances and associates try to make that obvious – and try to drag them back down into the pit of smoldering dissatisfaction that seems to be the norm for many.

It’s hard enough to be happy and content. First, it demands knowledge of what you really want. Then, it requires understanding that you have it – and deserve it.

Because this is so tenuous and unsure, it becomes easy for anyone to question, criticize and ultimately unravel the thin cocoon of happiness you weave around yourself… unless you are bold, confident and even – to a point – arrogant.

Earlier today, I had a conversation with a friend. He was pointing out ways I could do better with my efforts to fund heart surgeries for children. Each involved doing something that would involve a lot of time and effort, for little return.

I smilingly turned down his suggestions, managing not to offend him… while he subtly seemed to indicate I was leaving many children uncared for by doing so.

Thinking back to 10 years ago, when similar behavior might have made me defensive, and therefore abusive and angry, I feel a small thrill of satisfaction at my emotional development over the years.

After all, isn’t that what growing up is all about?

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2 Comments
  • May 17,2008 at 7:03 pm

    Dr Mani,

    We all struggle with our own sense of success, contentment and happiness. Maybe it’s the glass half-empty or full syndrome.

    If we’re fortunate to enjoy what we have and not be driven by what we lack, the journey can be a happy one.

    As someone in a higher pay-grade once said, “What you think of me is none of my business.”

    Peace and happiness.

  • May 15,2008 at 7:45 pm

    Good response to your friends’ suggestion…’No Response is often the best response’ in such situations…A response to such situations will often feel you a bitter and annoyed after the response. Its hard not to say anything – something I am working on as well.

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