What You Can’t Have…


“Mom, can I have Bournvita (a malt drink) from tomorrow, please?”

My wife was a little shocked by her request.

For years, the refrain at breakfast had been, “But why can’t I have coffee?”

Our response – “Coz you’re not old enough!” – was countered by impassioned arguments, some quite creative, that tried to make the case that she really was.

Fast forward to now. When she’s offered coffee, the little one no longer wants it.

She prefers Bournvita – the same drink she had dismissed with scorn for years!

What’s going on here?

A simple case of “being human”.

You see it play out everywhere. Across all ages. And over years.

In everything.

  • College courses and careers.
  • Jobs and friendships.
  • Entertainment, travel or recreation.
  • Partner or spouse.
  • And anything else.

When you can’t have it, you want it – badly.

When you can have it, though, you don’t want itat any price!

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It’s My Destiny


“Every man has but one destiny.”  – Don Corleone, in ‘The Godfather’

Every morning I drive down Sterling Road, one of Chennai’s oldest avenues.

Each time, a mini-movie plays in my mind.

It features a long-dead classmate with a penchant for riding powerful motorcycles.

I’m standing near the old bell in med school, chatting with some friends. It’s a celebration. College Day.

I hear a loud roar behind me. Feel a whoosh, as something hurtles by, barely missing me by a couple of inches… and screeches to a stop a few yards ahead, turns left and roars towards the gate.

It was my classmate.

The guy who loved speeding on his bike.

The one who, a few months later, rode it full tilt into the back of a stationary lorry on Sterling Road.

If he had swerved just one foot to his left that evening, the impact would have fractured my ribs and skull. Probably killed me instantly. Or left me seriously wounded, maybe paralyzed for life.

At age seventeen!

Every time since then, when things seem to be going bad, I ask myself:

“What if it had happened?”

That lends a certain perspective to my current situation. And has been of great help in dealing with tough circumstances and complications.

Several decades later, I’m still around. Alive and kicking.


Because it did NOT happen.

But why didn’t it?

Who can say? Maybe because…

It’s my Destiny.

Everybody has one.

You, too.

And if you read my book, ‘The Icedrop’ you’ll be convinced about it!

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Don’t Quit

Don't quit quotes

“You can never quit. Winners never quit, and quitters never win.”

– Ted Turner

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