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And You Were Upset About WHAT?

Today, I experienced one of those moments that remind me how much my profession influences my life.

A middle-aged couple consulted me about a month-old baby they had just adopted, and only afterwards discovered had a heart defect. Fortunately, it was a simple condition that may not require surgery, so I reassured the anxious parents that there was little to worry about at the present time.

But then, as I was getting their back-story, a sad tale unfolded. They had 4 children of their own earlier, all boys – and 3 had died of other birth defects, with the last waiting on a liver transplant list!

As I listened to them share their stressful life experiences, I couldn’t help but marvel at how much courage, fortitude and faith this amazing couple was showing every day – and at how trivial my own problems seem in contrast.

Many things were disturbing my peace of mind this past week. After consulting with this family, all of them faded away. I’m left with nothing but a deep sense of gratitude for life, and all that it has given me.


What were you upset about before reading this post?

Are you, still?


A Decade of Daddying

Daddy Girl

“It’s that moment before. Before it all changes and becomes what it is to be.”


Twitter – As LIFE!

Tweet like you have a MILLION followers.  I mean RESPONSIBLY!

This was the tweet that set off the thought that caused this post.

Twitter – like life – has never been a ‘popularity contest’… regardless of how hard some folks have recently attempted to make it one. That’s why, when I tweeted this last night, so many picked up on it and retweeted the note:

Live like you’ll die tomorrow.
Learn like you’ll live forever.
Tweet like you’ve got a MILLION followers.

When the celebrity juggernaut descended in force upon Twitter, it crushed all existing limitations – and dogma. Almost overnight, the ‘old Twitterati’ who were proudly proclaiming their meteoric rise to 10,000 or 20,000 or maybe 30,000 followers were dwarfed beside the Ashton Kutchers and CNN Breaking News behemoths with their one MILLION plus follower counts!

All of a sudden, these have-been Twitter mega-stars are seeing the facade of big follower figures for the “Emperor’s New Clothers” that it has always been. And are making compelling arguments to justify its elimination from the Twitter interface itself.

Why, pray, did they not consider the ever so simple alternative? Ignore the meaningless number altogether!

When celebrities come to Twitter, they don’t start all over from scratch. No. They port their already massive following from across multiple channels to this one. And then, they add more fans from the existing Twitter user base of millions – some of whom will be fans who earlier had no way to connect with their heroes and stars.

That’s why ‘follower count’ is irrelevant. It has always been. Irrelevant to everyone ELSE. Irrelevant even to yourself!

Do you go through life obsessed by how many people are ‘following you’? Not unless you’re a celebrity. Or a paranoid delusional, but we won’t go there 🙂

So why should this be any different on Twitter? On Twitter, as in life, no one should have to care about how many others follow anyone – or you.

Then what is Twitter about?

Twitter is a movement. Twitter snuck up silently behind us. It took us by surprise. It revolutionized online networking and communication.

Who would have believed that a micro-blogging service with a 140-character limit would catch on to the point where Oprah, Sylvester ‘Rocky’ Stallone and Stephen R.Covey among others would consider voluntarily getting on the steep (if short) learning curve to Twitter mastery.

But they have. And with good reason.

What if Twitter decided to remove follower counts from its interface tomorrow? Will it change the way you use Twitter? Why?

It shouldn’t. Because the key to effectively engage on Twitter – and in life – is simple, straightforward and sweet…


Tweet for 2 followers as you would for 2 million. Responsibly. With compassion, care and concern for others. From a platform of authenticity, generosity and sharing.

Just as you would live your life – in an ideal world.

Twitter – like life – is not about numbers. Not followers. Not even money. (Heck, they don’t even have a publicly stated or understood profit model yet!)

If you live your life chasing a number – ANY number – you miss out on a lot of the variety and spice of living. Ditto for Twitter.

Immerse yourself into the experience, though, with a spirit of exploration, enjoyment and exchanging value, and you’ll understand how much more there is.

To Twitter.

And to Life.

Because Twitter is life.

You better believe it!



It’s a REAL World Online

I’ve been using the Internet and World Wide Web since 1995. Over 14 years, I have seen sublime acts of sacrifice and support, generosity and greatness, heroism and helping.

But unless you’re a Polyanna clone, you’d have come across instances of the ‘flip side’. Horrifying acts of deadly depravity, distributed worldwide through the frictionless Web.

Nasty things that pop-up obscene pictures kids have no business seeing, or take control of your computer to wreak havoc on your property, and others’ peace.

Worse is the ‘thought poison’ that quietly pervades minds that consume it through the medium of the Web.

That’s what prompted this word of caution to help or guide the less experienced.

It’s a REAL world online, people!
Out there, separated from your ‘safe’ cocoon by nothing more than a mouse-click, are the dregs of human society… robbers and thieves, pimps and murderers, terrorists and anarchists.

On Twitter, I said:

Should the new social media mantra be: “When in doubt, DON’T trust?”

It can be a good guideline… at least until you gain enough insight to judge wisely. And it applies to EVERYTHING you read on the Web.

Things may not be what they seem.

Trusting your health, life, money, success or happiness to the evanescent reality of a Web-based persona is either foolishly hopeful or remarkably stupid.

On the REAL world online, “Verify – THEN trust!”



It hit me with a flash today. Some people are automatons.

I’ve seen this in two extremes – very bored, and very (too?) successful.

The very bored can be folks stuck in dull, repetitive jobs which they need for the money. There’s no challenge, no variety, no excitement.

  • He’s the janitor listlessly pushing his mop around the room.
  • She’s the clerk stacking cans at the supermarket.
  • Or the owner of a mechanical-voice that answers your support call from far away across oceans.


The very successful too may become automatons.

  • They build up a shell around themselves, to protect against intimacy with a large crowd that’s eager to get too familiar with them.
  • They hide behind an ‘artificial’ persona they put on to achieve their success, and then wear for so long that it becomes a habit they effortlessly adopt.
  • They hide their true selves.

By doing this, they appear emotionless, withdrawn and remote to those interacting with them.



Weird, even.


I’ve seen doctors who became automatons. And big-name marketers. Busy executives. Bureaucrats.

Every time I’ve seen or engaged with one of them, I’ve left thinking I NEVER want to become one.

No matter what else I don’t become, I don’t want to become an…


I’d rather be a caring, feeling, thinking person – with all the pain, frustration and diverse emotions attached to that state of being.


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